Today at my Pre-Ker’s and kindergartener’s school, it was “Muffins for Mom”. Sort of the schools way of encouraging parents to come eat with the kids on special occasions. This time it celebration of Mother’s Day.
Christyan the 4-year-old, excuse me almost 5-year-old, was in the spirit. Just about every man or woman we passed, she squilled “Happy Mother’s Day” and offered a big warm hug.
Catherynn, who is now a mature 6-year-old, on the other hand would simply offer a shy smile to those she didn’t know. Of course her interactions with people she is more familiar with was much more exuberant.
We stood in the abnormally long line, waiting for our milk and muffin. As we waited, we chatted amongst ourselves and with those around us.
The mood was light and airy. Everyone was smiling and laughing and just really enjoying the opportunity to be there with their kids.
I had such a good visit with the girls that as I was leaving, I had a little skip in my step.
Then as I walked out the front door of the school, I heard a man who was sitting in a car with the windows down, make a little joke to his kid in the back seat. He referenced the size of my ass to something along the lines of a double wide trailer or the Titanic. I didn’t stick around long enough to hear much else about what he thought about my ass.
I quickly grabbed Camrynn up and began walking faster. Even at the end of the long drive way in front of the school, I could still hear the guy laughing.
I fought back the anger and tears until I reached my car.
Please understand, I was not upset that some idiot, who by the way wasn’t a slim or even chubby person, but one who by all appearances had his own weight problems, was making fun of me. I’ve been made fun of my entire life about my weight. Over the years I have developed quite a thick skin where it is concerned.
No, what struck me was this man’s interaction with, presumably, his very own daughter.
I found it very sad and irritating that this guy was teaching and encouraging his child to be a bully.
No wonder my sweet, little Christyan gets teased occasionally.
And, it occurred to me that when children this age bully and tease, chances are the real culprits are the parents.
But, I already knew that. This just confirmed it.
If this guy is so quick to judge and make fun of a complete stranger, can you imagine the terror he will invoke in his own child should he ever find a flaw in her?