I am just going to jump right in and tackle one of the more prominent questions I have had ever since I accepted Jesus Christ and became saved.
For the majority of my life, I have identified as being a sexual person (not to be confused with an asexual person). I have left a trail of men behind me to attest to this. I am not proud of everything I have ever done in my life, but the culmination of all my choices make me the person I am today.
Ever since I became saved, I have pondered over my sexuality. This is not a question of if I am straight or gay. This is a question of is it possible to be a sexual being and still honor and serve God. I should also clarify that this is not a plea or question of promiscuity.
Generally, when I think about Christians and sex I think:
A: Christian’s don’t have sex
B: Christian’s have very plain, vanilla sex
C: Christian’s lack passion for their spouse
I have to admit that since becoming a Christian, I can’t imagine that these are 100% accurate assumptions. Just because I have been saved, I haven’t stopped having sexual desires, needs or wants.
Meeting Chris has been such a huge blessing to me. Not only is he my best friend, my partner in crime, he is my lover and all that I desire (in a man/husband).
I have a hard time reconciling my desire and longing for my husband with being a Christian. I know it is not a sin to desire your husband. But am I destined to have “vanilla” sex for the rest of my life?
Can you be “freaky” and still honor God? I realize some of you my be scratching your head, wondering what I mean by “freaky”, let’s just say that is all the description I am willing to give. However, if you would like, let your imagination do the walking, then shock yourself and you’ll almost be there.
So I am left wondering, what it is like to be a Christian before getting married? How do you reconcile the longing you have for your future spouse (or someone you are just dating) with serving and honoring the Lord?
What are your thoughts, ideas or experiences?